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  • ID: I5
  • Name: Elizabeth Ann DOYLE
  • Sex: F
  • Birth: 12 JAN 1921 in Lake Ida Twp.,Norman Co.,Minnesota
  • Death: 8 DEC 2007 in Mishawaka,St. Joseph Co.,Indiana
  • Burial: 11 DEC 2007 St.JoeValleyMem,Granger,St. Joseph Co.,Indiana
  • Note:
    Maternal haplogroup V (determined via DNA testing of her daughter Alice).
  • Note:
    BIRTH RECORD: Birth record clearly shows first name spelled "Elizebeth."
    However, she never used that spelling.
  • Note:
    DIVORCE: First marriage (to William E. Smith) ended in divorce 11-Apr-1947,
    South Bend, St. Joseph So., Indiana, after two children.
  • Note:
    HEALTH NOTES: Heavy smoker for 30 years, beginning in 1950; old-age &
    obesity-related diabetes. Breast cancer, age 74, May 1995; mastectomy,
    chemo-therapy, radiation. Two heart attacks, angio plasti, and quintuple
    bypass, age 75, October 1996; recovered at Cardinal Nursing home after heart
    bypass surgery. Severe and extreme osteoporosis.
  • Note:
    Address from November 1949 until May 2006: 230 Palau Avenue; Mishawaka,
  • Note:
    For the last 19 months of her life, from May 2006 until her death on December 8,
    2007, she lived at Countryside Place Nursing & Rehab, at 811 E. 12th Street in
    Mishawaka. Nursing home was also called "Beverly Living Center, Mishawaka."
  • Note:
    At the time of her death in 2007, she had ten acknowledged grandchildren and one
    hidden grandchild (through her #2 son) whom she knew of but never saw. The
    hidden grandchild was a grandson, born June 1975, in South Bend, St. Joseph
    County, Indiana.
  • Note:
    In June 1975, within 48 hours of the birth of her # 2 son's son, Elizabeth Ann
    knew that the baby existed. She knew because the new baby's mother telephoned
    her from the hospital and said, "I want you to know that I gave birth to your
    grandson. Dale is the father, but his name won't be on the birth certificate,
    and the baby won't carry the BEARD name." My mother absolutely knew the child
    existed and believed he was her grandson. When she told her son what the
    young mother had told her, her son (just barely 16) acknowleged the truth and
    himself walked the two-and-a-half miles to the hospital to see his
    son. He continued seeing his son regularly for over two years, until the young
    mother made the choice to prevent him from seeing their son. (The law was on
    her side.) Elizabeth said she never saw the child, even though he lived close
    by, and it may be that she told no other family member until 2001.
  • Note:
    The shock of learning that my mother had hidden the existence of a grandson for
    26 years was stunning beyond description. It took ten years of persistent
    hunting to find and realize the magnitude of the deception. Why she
    happened to share with me what she shared with me in August 2001, I'll never
    know. At the time (2001), I asked the relatives with whom I was then in
    contact -- some first cousins, the youngest brother, the older of the two
    maternal half-sisters. All claimed they knew nothing and had heard nothing from
    the lost brother since a few years before 2000.
  • Note:
    By 2001 when she told me, my mother's memory was fading. Did she tell
    me because she wanted someone to know and I was the most likely person to tell
    if she wanted that grandson remembered? Perhaps. She knew me to be excellent
    at digging out a story, and she knew that I liked that brother, and she knew
    that I tend not to keep my mouth shut. If she wanted the "secret" to remain
    "secret" forever, she surely would have known that I was the wrong person to
    tell. Did she tell me only because she was a lonely 80-year-old woman and I
    was giving her some attention and showing her some kindnesses? Perhaps. Maybe
    she wanted a friend. Did she tell me because her memory was going and she
    forgot what was a "secret" and what was not a "secret"? Perhaps. I shall
    never know why she happened to tell me. All I know is that she spoke the truth
    in that one brief conversation in August 2001. When I saw and realized the
    truth in September 2011, it was something like a surprise ending to a movie
    that I'd been watching for 36 years, without even knowing that I'd been
    watching a movie. Along the way and over the years, clues were given. When I
    saw them, when I heard them, they seemed to have no significance. Then, in
    that one moment of seeing a photograph of the face of my brother's son, the
    dozen or so clues and hints from minor moments over a span of 36 years
    suddenly came together. I verified my conclusion with standard research and
    reporting. The truth explained so much. I also suspect the truth explained
    why I lost a brother -- not the existance of a son, but the keeping of the
    secret of the son. One of my stand-out memories is from summer 1979. By
    chance, I saw my brother in Ft. Wayne when I was with my baby son; I also was
    with my youngest brother and our mother. We shared a meal at a restaurant.
    I handed my baby son to my brother. My brother was only 20. He took my son
    with his large hands, held him in his arms, and handled him and interacted
    with him like someone who had experience handling a baby. I remember thinking,
    "Where'd you learn how to handle a baby? There were no babies for you to have
    handled as you grew up." Yet I could see that he had experience handling a
    baby. He had gained that experience handling his own son. He was just never
    permitted to talk with anyone about it. It may be that the only two people
    to whom he could acknowledge that he had a son were his own mother and the
    mother of his son. And that's sad. My brother took many "hits" to allow
    his son's mother to keep the secret. And that's sad. If it were a movie,
    it would not be a happy movie. Figuring out "the puzzle" gave new meaning to
    some of my brother's last words to me: "I don't care about my ancestors. I
    care only about my descendants." His son may never know, but I suspect that
    his son's real father made a painful choice out of love for his young son whom
    he knew and saw regularly for the first two years of his life. If my brother
    is still alive, he lived to know that his son did well. The magic of the
    internet would have allowed that. Perhaps knowing that his son did well eased
    the old pain of an 18-and-a-half-year-old father who was forced to walk
    away from his son and from what might have been. By the time my brother was
    told, "You no longer may see him because I'm afraid that he'll start asking who
    you are, and I don't want to have to try to explain," my brother's son would
    have been walking for over 18 months, playing, interacting, and surely
    recognizing my brother since he had been seeing him regularly since he was
    born. But the law was on the side of the mother, and my brother was forced to
    walk away. It must have been agony, and an agony that he was forced to suffer,
    basically, in silence.

    Father: Itha Elmer DOYLE b: 1874 in Bixby,Vermilion Co.,Illinois
    Mother: Mary Louise PAYNE b: 1 JUN 1883 in Marysville,Vermilion Co.,Illinois

    Marriage 1 William Emory SMITH b: 22 AUG 1919 in New Carlisle,St. Joseph Co.,Indiana
    • Divorced: Y
    • Married: 16 MAY 1942 in St. Joseph Co.,Indiana

    Marriage 2 Miles Griffith BEARD b: 14 APR 1918 in Indianapolis,Marion Co.,Indiana
    • Married: 19 NOV 1949 in South Bend,St. Joseph Co.,Indiana

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    This database is the result of over 25 years of my research. I am now an attorney; in the past, I spent two years as a librarian at an LDS Family History Center. For direct-line ancestors, and for all descendants of any of my great-great grandparents, all information has been proven by me. However, as with most genealogists, I have included some information in this database that is not the result of my own research, but rather the result of someone else claiming that the information is correct.

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